When you have a moment, go to YouTube and look up a wonderful little bit of animation titled Female Astrology by Soviet artist Rosalia Zelma. There are some Russian words in it, but for the most part you can make it out without translation, as this brilliant animated short walks you through various phases of a woman's life.
The two books below do much the same thing, albeit more extensively. Rona Altrow's Key In Lock is a collection of women-centered stories narrated in first person by female characters of all ages and walks of life.
Old women, middle-aged women, young women, teenage girls; women with jobs, women without jobs, housewives, business owners; women who want kids but can't have them; women who have kids but don't want them, women who love their kids but not their parents, women who love their parents but not their spouses; married women, dating women, divorced women, single women, widowed women; well-educated sophisticated women and women who can barely put two words together... For all you know, you may have passed some of them on the street, stood behind them in line at Starbucks or glimpsed them through a shop window on your way to work. Each story is something you might overhear while waiting at a bus stop or being a fly on the wall at someone's home.
All of them together make a delightful and intensely personal mix, proving once and for all that our lives cannot - and should not - develop according to someone else's time table. So, when something deviates from what is considered the appropriate course, making a new path is not only acceptable - it is encouraged.
The similar theme is picked up by Kim Johnson Gross in her What to Wear for the Rest of Your Life: Ageless Secrets of Style. The difference is that the author makes her point by weaving real-life statements and experiences into what is essentially a style guide book.
I want to be clear, I do not agree with her on everything. I am of the school of thought that black does not, in fact, go with everything (brown and charcoal gray are much softer, more versatile and do not kill the subtlety in other colors). I also vehemently oppose just about everything in the Fake It Till You Make It chapter. If you can't button your pants or skirt, and the button cannot be moved to make some room - they have to go. Hiking them up unbuttoned and hiding them under a tunic is just not acceptable to me.
That said, I still think it is a fantastic positive book, helping women realize that there is style after menopause and allowing those who have crossed that line see them in a new fun and feminine light, and those who have yet to come to that point to not be afraid of it.